Post-childhood trauma resilience

Why am I committed to talking about the consequences of childhood traumas that resurface in adulthood ?

Because after 15 years of solitary healing and 4 years of intense re-traumatization in my family and couple relationships, I realized that:

• The consequences of childhood violence and neglect last a lifetime if left unchecked
• Our unexpressed emotions are completely INVISIBLE, therefore underestimated, because we grow up under the influence of traumatic dissociation, guilt and shame for carrying them
• Our ignored traumas remain in the body and create symptoms of post-traumatic stress which accumulate from year to year : unexplained fears and anger, flashbacks, anxiety attacks, panic attacks, suicidal ideas, psychosomatic illnesses, etc.
• Whether we like it or not, our childhood traumas define our adult lives and relationships

(I will detail the impact of each of these key aspects in my next articles).

What is resilience ?!

I have always been fascinated by research on emotional resilience, this art of being reborn from one’s suffering (especially that of the childhood that we have buried). In “The Whisper of the Ghosts”, Boris Cyrulnik (neuropsychiatrist who popularized resilience in France) tells us:

“We can only speak of resilience if there has been a trauma followed by the resumption of a type of development, which then resembles a repaired tear. This is not a normal development since the trauma recorded in memory has become part of our history like a ghost that accompanies us. As someone wounded in the soul, we can resume development, henceforth influenced by the break-in of the trauma in our personality”

According to him, resilience is a process that we put in place to overcome a traumatic shock, which he defines as an irreparable tear.

THANK YOU Boris for your immense contribution to supporting people traumatized in childhood.

Resilience is a sensitive passage, but a useful passage, for us and for our humanity.

Resilient people are, in my opinion, the leaders of tomorrow who open the door for us out of our traumatized world.

It’s to contribute to this resilient world that I am committed to supporting people traumatized in childhood in the release of their buried emotions, by offering trauma informed coaching sessions to which I include energy treatments and somatic practices.

Resilience is possible, whatever your past. I am living proof.

In 2023, I made the firm decision that I no longer wanted to live with my post-traumatic stress disorder, despite social and family denial.

I became a trauma informed coach specializing in the release of buried childhood trauma after:

• 10 years of writing and coaching for more than 100 therapists/coaches, and inquiring strong emotions, disproportionate reactions and painful re-traumatizing relationships
• 4 years of re-traumatization in my couple where I relive my trauma buried for 35 years, not because my partner is violent or abusive, but because he… is the father of a little girl who has the age of the traumatized and ignored little girl that I was (I will tell you in more detail about my recovery from traumatic amnesia in a future article)

In 2023, I have made another decision, that of publicly committing to sharing the results of my experiments on myself and my clients in my book “Wounded to Empowered” and on my YouTube channel because:

• We live in a society that is still ignorant of the consequences of childhood trauma and the urgent need to express our buried emotions
• Our traumas are still largely denied by our families, which creates even more guilt, shame, isolation and rejection
• Family denial is therefore a second trauma which does not erase the fact that our traumas are very real in our bodies and our brains, and that they silencty affect several million people, just for a country like France

Today, I feel the need to open this blog and this support space for traumatized and resilient people because if we don’t talk, our traumas don’t go away. They stay in our body and insidiously transform into addictions, depression, burnout and toxic relationships, REPEATEDLY (until we listen to them).

This is what I invite us to do, together, on this blog.

Feel free to contact me or comment below this article to share your healing and resilience journey. Whatever you share with me, I trust you.

> I invite you to book your free consultation with me if you are ready to see how trauma informed coaching can help you find your best solutions, which are already there, inside you.

Amandine Mas — Emotions and Writing Coach on https://www.instagram.com/amandine_emotional_freedom

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Sources and References:

• American Psychological Association: Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) website
• International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies: Understanding PTSD website
• National Institute of Mental Health: Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder website
• van der Kolk, B. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma. Penguin Books.
• Murielle Salmona, french psychiatrist, founder in 2009 of the Traumatic Memory Association, an organization for workers caring for victims of violence (in particular sexual violence, domestic violence, children violence, and terrorism violence).